“I must say a word about fear. It is life’s only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life.” ~Yann Martel, Life of Pi
Fear is life’s only true opponent. Everything else is merely an attribute of fear. Whatever you think you can or cannot do is governed by whether or not you have a lot of fear invested in its completion.
The thing about fear is that if we’re not careful, we can let it dictate every nuance of our life. Some of us live a safe life because we’re afraid of what might happen to us if we step outside of the box for a short amount of time. Others can be said to have lived fearlessly. They seem to run ahead without even thinking about the dangers of being bitten.
That’s not to say that these people don’t live without fear. They’re probably terrified about what will happen to their well being if they continued on ahead. But they go on ahead, anyway. Why? Because they’re more terrified of what might happen if they don’t move foreword, if they stay behind and live in a perpetual one dimension of themselves.
So what is greater? The fear of the unknown or the fear of staying the same? All fear is valid, because if you fear something, then that fear is your reality. Just because someone else doesn’t think it’s fear worthy mean that it’s not a reality for you.
I had a friend a few years ago who made the confession that she was afraid of being alone. She wanted to be in love so much that the idea of dying alone without ever having been in love was something that caused great distress. Whether or not she’s gotten over her fear in order to enjoy being with others without thinking about the consequences I have no idea.
Fear can spur us on to conquer our dreams or it can hinder us into a life of misery. Only you can decide where it leads you. Maybe that’s why they say there’s nothing to fear, but fear itself…