Sometimes I wonder if things are supposed to be the way things are. For example, when we talk about relationships, we always like to tell each other that there is somebody out there for us, that we just have to be patient and wait. When you least expect it, that person will come for you and sweep you away. Well…have you ever wondered that maybe some things just aren’t meant to be for some people? Not everybody is going to fall in love, get married, and have kids, even if it’s something you wanted and dreamed about. Jane Austen wanted to fall in love and get married, but she never did. Granted, there are rumors about her falling in love with a particular man but couldn’t get married due to the circumstances of the time (he married someone else due to social expectations).
But that’s just what I’m talking about. We don’t always get what we want, even if we want it, feel it in our very beings that it’s something that could make us happy. Chocolate makes me happy and I want to eat it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but that’s not necessarily the right thing to do. We don’t get what we want.
I don’t know where I’m trying to go with this, but maybe the fact of the matter is that we as a society need to stop telling each other that we’re going to get what we want all the time. We’re not going to get what we want all the time. Therefore, I think we should all focus on other aspects of our lives and stop grousing about the things that we want out of our lives. Some things are attainable but we need to take the smaller steps necessary in order to get where we need to get to in our life.
And other times things just are. A person can do everything right in a relationship, but it never works out for them. They can evaluate themselves in order to see what they can do better for next time and make everything better for next time but it still doesn’t work out. Sometimes in life we get bad luck and other times from the bad luck we realize that we didn’t want what we originally thought we wanted.
Sometimes things just are.